A mile in his shoes

I have been pondering an old idiom about not criticizing someone before having walked a mile in his shoes.

I developed a new appreciation for all of my teachers, both good and bad, after I created and taught an undergraduate course for the first time. I am similarly developing an entirely new appreciation for my former boss. I have learned more in one week of walking in his old shoes than I gleaned from more than 10 years of watching his day to day operations from the outside looking in. I had thought that I had understanding. I had thought that I had excellent observational skills honed from my scientific training. I had thought that I tried to observe with empathy rather than judgment. Just as it was different standing in front of a classroom rather than sitting at a desk in the class, it is quite different sitting at the top of an organizational unit rather than the bottom or safely tucked in the middle. I think I have an apology to make tomorrow for things I could have done to have been more supportive over the past decade had I known then what I know now.

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3 comments on “A mile in his shoes
  1. nico says:

    This is what I call the BEAUTY OF AGING Cathy. People are so fast for making some judgments sometimes. This is really deceiving but we all have gone to this process I guess, which is sad. But fortunatly, it always come a times for where we realized so many things in life.

  2. Cathy says:

    Thanks Nico. I suppose there are some perks to aging. I made my apology this morning for all of the things that I didn’t do in the past. He was quite surprised but handled it with amazing grace, “you are doing it now.”

  3. Irene says:

    I loved this post, Cathy. This is one to save and “dog-ear” for later reference. Thanks for sharing this.